Tag Archives: Love

Jan 16

Don’t drag your kids to hell

I love the title, it sounds like one of those cliché horror films.

Anyway, it has been quite an experience these days to hear stories about marriage, divorce, pregnancy and bringing up kids. One thing I could absolutely not understand is why do the irresponsible people, out of all mankind, choose to give birth to a baby that they could not even nourish with love, care and a good upbringing just because they could not control their lower halves of their bodies.

There is something called contraception. Condoms should be cheap and available everywhere; contraceptive pills could be found in pharmacies and there might be more ways of prevent pregnancy that I have not known of, so why do you decide to bring a baby to this world when you could not even make a commitment to take care of him/her?

I am not pro-abortion, I am just saying that if you could not give a damn about taking care of your own kid then don’t let them suffer with you. Bringing them to this world when you are not even ready doesn’t mean that you are pro-life nor being “responsible”, it is being cruel to the kid.

What should be ponder on the decision on giving birth covers more than one factor.

Financially, are you able to provide your child with good lodging and food? Will you be able to pay for their education till they graduate from a decent school? If you were to divorce, is it possible to raise your child singlehandedly without trouble? Do note that raising up a kid is a costly matter.

Family; are they supportive of having the baby? If they are not, are you able to withstand the heavy burden and responsibility to take care of your child without any help? Do you want a family? Are you mature enough to support a family? Do you love kids? Are you able to give this kid an environment that they will be proud to say “I LOVE MY FAMILY”?

Love; do you love your partner to bear his/her kids and be happy to raise the kids up together? Is the child a fruit of love or is s/he just an “accident”? Are you confident in giving your child the happiness of a complete family? Will you be the responsible and loving parent to teach the right things (like love and kindness) to your child? Can you take the pressure to feed them; dress them; clear their shit and stand by 24/7 to take care of them? Are you willing to sacrifice your sleep; time and other sides of your life to love this precious little child you have?

Character-wise; if you are abusive/compulsive gambler/alcoholic/psychotic/pedophile, YES YOU ARE UNFIT TO BE A PARENT. Enough said. You cannot teach a kid kindness if you are not. You cannot teach a kid respect if you don’t give respect to others. You cannot teach a kid to be responsible if you ain’t like that.

For all that matter, I don’t give a flying f*** if you are married or not as long as you are a loving couple who is willing to bring your own child up in the best conditions you can give no matter what happens. And since love can’t be forced or foreseen, I don’t even care if you are a single parent as long as you are confident to provide your child with ample love and care.

Be kind, getting married because of a baby instead of love is bad enough. Having a baby without the ability to provide the best for them is worse. Don’t waste another life if you are already a screwed up.

Oct 17

My Lovers

People always tell me that I have a lot of cameras but I beg to differ. How can one simply has “too many” cameras? There is no “too many” for cameras.

And to be very honest, the cameras I have is nothing compared to the real photography enthusiasts. You guys should look at their dry boxes!

My List of Lovers

Canon 450 with kit lens (18-55mm)

My first baby that I shrimp and saved to get it! It has accompanied me throughout my poly days till now. That means we are going to celebrate our 5th anniversary this year! Okay, I am just kidding. I am not that psychotic (yet). Hahaha. But anyway, I have always been a Canon lover because of its beautiful results on portraits. I always hear a lot about how Nikon is great in landscape photography while Canon is awesome in portrait photography but nonetheless, even if you have a great camera and you know nuts about photography, your photos would NEVER turn out great.

Easy to use interface, sturdy, heavy and of course, a little outdated as compared to the lastest DSLR models like 650D that are similar to 450D. It gets really grainy on high ISO (eg. 1600, which is nothing compared to the models which have up to 3600). Partly also because I am using a kit lens which aperture is limited. Else, if I am using a 50mm (image below) lens, the image would turn out clearer.

50mm

I love this lens to the core even though it is a pain in the neck when space is limited. It is a fixed lens that is good for close ups, sometimes I use it for food photography too. Brilliant depth of field that makes the whole photo more sophisticated. Here’s an example of what a 50mm can do:

See what I mean by it? :D Dears look even prettier here. Hahahahaha.

 

Canon Powershot S95

Won this baby from a blog contest (you can read the entry here -> http://lovelivfe.com/2011/02/28/home-is/). I didn’t expect the win especially when the other entries were so good too, so a BIG THANK YOU to NE5 and the organizers again! Anyway, this Powershot works really well in low-light conditions! Even better than my DSLR, I would say. Even though the clarity of the photo remains debatable, the saturation & contrast that the photos turn out to be? SIMPLY GORGEOUS. Here’s a collage of the first use of this camera:

Without flash

With Flash

(In case you are wondering who this cute guy is, he is Felix Zenger - beatboxer/musician from Finland whom I saw at Capri By Fraser‘s launch party which I will be posting about soon!)

Lomography Diana Mini (You can see my unboxing video here)

My Love in The Air version had something wrong with the flash function so I had to make an exchange and since the design is already OOS, the only appealing choice is Petite Noir.

Great accessory and absolutely a conversation starter with strangers. Been there, done that. ;)

The photos turns out to be really dreamy and fun. My little niece (what do you call the child of a cousin?) had so much fun snapping around during the last family gathering.

Vivitar UWS

Love the blue scale film but I can’t remember which brand it is. :(

Instax 25s

I have always wanted to get a Polaroid but the original brand is too expensive and “was” out of manufacturing line so like most people, I make do with the credit card size instant film with Fujifilm Instax 25s. :P

I do have two more toys – Holga 110 and a twin star lomo camera which were given to me as presents and I love them but since I have no photos (the film failed to be developed for Holga 110 while I haven’t finished the roll on the twin star) to show you. Maybe next time!

Hope everyone likes this post as much as I do, because cameras just makes me happy! HEEHEE.