Shared this video from friend’s facebook wall and got some feedbacks.
I don’t understand at all.
Why would people wants to give useless comments/insults like that to someone that isn’t even part of their personal lives?
So what if they are artistes or celebrities, they are human too. And if you want to say something about them, think.
Does it improves your life? Is your comment so important that you have “no choice” but to put it bluntly and ruin someone’s day?
My friend asked me “What constitutes a bully? Is there a difference between being a bully and being critical/judgmental? There’s a lot of grey areas and blurred lines.”
Yes, I agreed to a certain extent that it is true that there’s a lot of grey areas.But if you have the choice to be nice or for the least, keep your useless comments to yourself, would you rather lash out at someone and make their day miserable? Would you like that if someone just vomit shit on you and you feel damn frigging miserable about yourself? NO. No way.
It is especially so when that “someone” is a stranger. Someone that has nothing to do with your life. For one thing I know, I will not put up with useless comments and neither would I accept the bullying from some random stranger. Of course, there are times that the “victims” could shut up and ignore all these negativity and continue their own lives normally (thank goodness for these people who knows how to filter out) but it comes to a point that these keyboard warriors or anonymous commenters get a little too personal on their attacks.
Firstly, attacking about someone else’s appearances is never a very nice thing to do. You know why?
So, be nice. I know we all are not perfect and we have all these judgmental side that always wants to say something but really, you have the choice to be nice. For the least, be quiet. Don’t be the bad guy when you don’t have to.
If you have nothing nice to say, don’t speak.
I know you want the world to hear you out but c’mon, insulting others is not the way to do it. You have so much more important things to do in life.
Why don’t you just get a cute lover and cuddle on the sofa to watch television all day? Won’t it be more lovely than spending your precious time commenting on how others live their lives? Don’t become a miserable creep that no one likes.
Group lashing and bullying are no ways to socialize either.
Secondly, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I cannot emphasize more on this and I have been (almost) begging everyone to remember this every time I write something like this article.
I love to be treated nicely and I like to be fed with compliments so I believe others would appreciate these little gestures and compliments when they deserve it too. We all need some encouragements and positivity in life, so why not just be someone who add values to the lives of the people around you rather than making useless comments like “you are ugly”, “you are fat”, “you should die” or something like that. Do you know how hurtful it is to hear these?
Whenever I hear how some of my friends lash on the celebrities that they don’t like and I asked them why they did it, they simply said “I just don’t like them”.
The reason of verbal bullying is simply “I don’t like them”. What are you? A five-year-old? Oh wait, no. Even kids nowadays would be more mature than this.
Lastly, you really don’t know what is going on in other people’s lives… just shut your trap before you pushed someone to the corner of suicide. Not everyone could handle stress well, nor does everyone knows how to stand up for themselves, knowing when to say “stop” to bullying. There’s a thin line between acceptance and tolerance. Tolerance has its limits. You might be a friend but you still do not have the rights to judge (I know it’s hard not to but try! Unless your friend is doing something stupid that will get him/her into trouble, stop them!).
Sometimes I feel like I have too much opinions for my own good but for goodness sake, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. It is your god damn life, start living it and stop accepting crap from others. The only way to be happy is to be positive and in order to be positive, not only you have to think positively, you gotta surround yourself with positive people and energy. I mean, seriously… Stop being melodramatic and think that your life is a tragedy. If you feel uncomfortable about how some people talks to you or insulting you with your body shape, race or gender, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. Because if you don’t, no one will. Speak your mind instead of letting everyone step all over you.
“Don’t let your self-worth be defined by the words of a bully.”
I don’t mean it in the argumentative way. You can choose to ignore/stay away from these people as much as possible or make a point by voicing out that you don’t like to be treated this way. Fight or flight? I don’t know, it depends on you. Choose a way that could eliminates these negative energies around you. Be brave, you can do this.
For the bullies (we all are bullies at some point of time but always think about this), the fact that you are reading this now means you have a computer with internet, you are already 10000 times more fortunate than half the population on the globe. STOP stooping so low. You are not that negative, don’t believe that kind of traits in yourself. Be better than that.
You have a brain, use it better.
You have a heart, use it to feel for others.
Respect others is also a form of respecting yourself.